Creating A New Vision Of Love

Love heals. Learning how to embrace love and to believe in love can transform your life. Understanding how to find love in every life experience can create a new joyful way of being and interacting with all of life. Love is powerful. It can mend broken hearts and teach us how to forge new paths forward. Love grants us the courage to move forward from disappointing experiences.

There are times when I remember these truths and times when I forget. A Course in Miracles teaches that there are only two emotions; love, and fear. When I forget to love, I am most certainly embracing fear. For me, embracing fear looks like overworking and feeling frustrated and exhausted. Fear shows up when my teenagers are testing my patience and I find myself yelling instead of seeking to understand their unmet needs. In these moments I have forgotten to love.

Part of my spiritual practice is constantly learning to lean in to love. I look for love's lessons in disappointments and setbacks. It doesn't mean that I don't have down or stuck moments. It means that I have a path forward rooted in love, that doesn't allow me to stay stuck for too long. Love guides me to offer and seek forgiveness. Love allows me to admit when I'm wrong. For this I am grateful.

Here are three tips I find to be most supportive in creating a new vision of love when I have strayed too far from love's path.

1.Get clear about what you would like to feel.

What is it that you most desire to feel in your relationships? Is it passion, love, joy, or connection? Permit yourself to feel those feelings in your body. Allow yourself to know that these good feelings are possible for you. Focus on the good feelings you'd like to generate from your relationship with yourself and others. It is so easy to allow fear to take over when we focus on our feelings. I encourage you to focus on feeling what it would be like to be loved in your relationships. Starting first with your relationship with yourself. How can you show yourself more passion, love, joy, and connection today? Are you open to experiencing these feelings with others?

2. Focus on what you desire to experience in your relationships.

When we've had a string of bad relationship experiences, we can start to expect all of our future encounters to be awful. Creating a new vision of love occurs when we allow ourselves to know the types of people and circumstances that will inspire us to open our hearts and trust in love again. Know that we are that powerful. When we know our requirements for loving relationships and we no longer allow ourselves to settle, the Universe will support us in creating connections that are aligned to the people, relationships, and connections that are best suited for us.

3. Spend time breathing and speaking life into your new vision of love.

Allow yourself to imagine the type of loving connections that will inspire and motivate you. The skill of daydreaming is particularly useful for this suggestion. See and feel the love to desire to create in your mind's eye. Speak about your vision of love in the present tense as if it's happening now. For example, "I am grateful for the joyful connections that are happening now in my life." Give thanks for the love in your life and the love to come. Allow the anticipation of great love to move you forward.

Dream big, and know that love is for you, yes You! Give yourself permission to dream a new dream of love and to allow love, not fear to move you forward.

Be inspired by your new vision of love and be blessed.

Danielle