Shedding The Past And Starting Anew
Over the years, I have learned that discomfort is one of my most knowledgeable teachers. I wish I could say that I learn best when I'm comfortable and at ease, but that's not my path in this lifetime, and that's okay. If you're reading this blog post, you probably can relate. Discomfort has a way of pointing out the areas in my life that require attention, acknowledgment, and the dreaded "c" word, change.
"We can always begin again." - Jack Kornfield
The of the things I love most about life is that we can always choose to begin again. Each moment provides an opportunity to assess what's working what's not and make a plan to start anew.
Here are a few tips I've learned along the way that support me in letting go of outdated thoughts, beliefs, and habits and starting anew.
1. Get clear about what you're ready to release.
Allow yourself to honestly assess and own your pain points. If you are focusing on the bad behaviors of others, you are missing the mark. Get clear about your behaviors, beliefs, feelings, agreements, actions, and inactions, keeping you stuck in scarcity, fear, or limitation. Make a list of them so you can see them on paper. This process will help you acknowledge what you're ready to release.
2. Be willing to let it go.
Once you're clear about what you're ready to release, be willing to let it go. It sounds simple right? But it isn't. Sometimes, we hold on to old ways of being because they've worked in the past and help us feel safe. An example of this concept is people-pleasing. I'm a recovering people-pleaser, and I know that recovering from this behavior can feel like a long, bumpy road. Even though we know that people-pleasing doesn't work for us, still, we engage it because we're afraid of offending others or losing love. We must be ready to stand in our truth and be willing to offend and even possibly lose love to be our authentic selves and build equitable relationships. We don't have to know precisely how it will happen, but we must be willing to let go of what's not working to move forward.
Remember the list I mentioned in point 1? Burn the list, rip it up into little pieces, discard it. I'm serious! Don't hold on to what's not working. Let it go. You don't need it anymore, and physically releasing it can help drive the point home.
3. Choose to start anew.
Once we've gotten clear about what's not working and have made a conscious choice to let go, we can now make a plan to start anew. When I enter this phase in my process, I choose goals that will move me towards the change I seek. I set up accountability to support me in staying on track with the action steps I must put in place to make changes happen. I have come to truly value community and surround myself with people who want to see me win. It's fantastic, and I know today that no matter how scary it may feel, change is possible, and I never have to do it alone.
Are you interested in joining me for a virtual ritual to release the past and start anew? I'm offering a 90-minute Virtual Burning Bowl Meditation on January 31, 2022, at 6:30 pm. A 20% off early bird discount is available until January 28th Click this link to get more information and to sign up.
I hope to see you there!
All My Love,
Danielle ❤️
